Watermelong
Created time: July 4, 2024 8:21 PM Last edited time: August 21, 2024 9:52 PM
I have a career coach, and as I wrote this I realized it was not my intention to talk about career coaches (I wanted to talk about watermelons), but I guess I will talk about both.
However first:
🍉 - as a symbol of time or community
Basically, if you buy a watermelon (which imho should maybe only get bought as whole balls), it means that one either has time or a group of people to eat it with.
watermelon = time * people
Like you need a way to store it for the time of eating. Sometimes if lots or big eaters, the storing time is reduced, but with fewer eaters, there needs to be time.
Then there is the how.
- you can spoon collectively
- or you can cut it in perfectly cut half moons (is this the watermelon archetype?)
- I mean there is also the bite-sized cutouts, but those are fancy, and unequal (is this where the inequality in society stems from?)
- and the disks, which kinda dispense watermelon unequally, but there is the least open surface area at any one time, while allowing for smaller portions.
This is how my uncle eats his watermelons:
🛋️ - My coach
First, I am so very grateful to all those willing to share their time/space/knowledge/things.
Second, I am so very grateful when people have a (positive) agenda for a meeting (unofficial or not), and thus interact with intent.
There(e→r, r→e?), is something about meeting with a certain regularity, that adds accountability to such relationships.
Four, when people repeatedly show that they want - your presence, your answers, your commitment - it creates a standard, a request for youness, that calls one to be alive.
Five, coaches have frameworks, homework, the agency to try things, to hold space, to poke for answers.
Six, (and maybe unlike therapy) it’s more oriented toward the future, and some times more playful
Seven Ate Nine - price and time:
Sometimes in life we pay for things, and sometimes there are other ways. Or better, sometimes in life we pay for things with money and sometimes we do other things.
Life (and things and services - in this case career coaches) can be very expenny, like tens, hundreds, thousands and sometimes I don’t have tens, hundreds, thousands. When people (or startups) are starting out, people are willing to learn together. And so are coaches. What I’ve found is that when people are doing their (coaching) certifications, they need practical hours, hours with people where they’ve practiced what they’ve learned. I’ve previously jumped in on offers as such from colleagues and people I knew. But these were usually one of, whereas this time now, it’s a series of sessions. We meet regularly and we explore. She asks me to draw learnings from random thoughts and explore things. I get challenges and homework. I write my goals, and talk about values and all that, and I revise how I do things, my priorities, what’s important, sometimes because of her prompts, but sometimes just because this relationship exists
I am so grateful.
Anyways, watermelons.
It’s summertime, watermelontime.
It takes a village, or it takes time, for dreams too.